How Nostalgia Becomes a Weapon in a Narcissistic Relationship

Kitanya Harrison
3 min readNov 16, 2022
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Nostalgia is an important weapon for narcissists, because they want to control their targets’ memories. It’s one of the reasons they act out so much during the holidays, etc. — there are nostalgic forces at work that are much more powerful than theirs. Narcissists tactically create memories with their targets that make them look good and intermittently reinforce them. When they have a…

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Kitanya Harrison

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